A Haunting and Paranormal View on Valentines Day

So today is Valentines Day. Last night was an private investigation way down south. Our team helped a client make peace with someone who passed on but didn't want to leave. My wife and I crawled into bed around 3am. I woke up slowly around 8 and watched my wife get ready for work, thinking and pondering what to get her on Valentines Day.

After she left for work, I headed out the door to find something appropriate (or inappropriate) for the one I love. My wife and my soul mate. On the way to the store, I drove past a bus bench. On the bench was a purse. Behind the bench and the purse, a older lady sat on the edge of a planter, watching up the street for the bus. The purse was her purse, no questions asked. She was the only human within 50 feet of the purse. She was in her late 60's, getting feeble and looking sad. I wondered why she was sitting back, away from the purse and away from the bench. Anyone could walk by, grab her purse and run. She was a good twelve feet away from all her valuables.

As I asked myself why she wasn't sitting on the bench next to her purse, I heard a response from the spirit world. It said "Because that was where her husband would have sat. He passed away and it hurts for her to remember, especially on a day like today. The purse is where he used to sit."

I drove on, pondering the death of a loved one on Valentines Day. How difficult it must be. We, as paranormal investigators often get numb to the realities of what we investigate, relationships ended, loved ones who have left the earth. Families living with the ghosts of the past, searching and asking themselves, "Is that her, is that him? Is she still around? Does he come to visit and look in on me?"

A few blocks later, these questions were reinforced as an ambulance pulled across traffic in front of me to enter a retirement home. Balloon hearts were tied up outside the front doors of this place. Decorations were on the doors. Cupids, hearts, love, and other words and paper cutouts. The ambulance pulled up and the medics ran inside to attend to someone unseen. A fire truck also pulled in, blocking all traffic as we all pondered if someone just left his world. Behind me a car honked in frustration. It seemed like hours before the lights changed to green and we were able to creep past the contrast of Happy Red Valentine Hearts and Angry Red Flashing Siren Lights.....

I passed an open view inside the doorways of the retirement home, to a wall of concerned people watching the medics work on somebody. It is amazing how much concern you can feel watching the backs of so many grey and balding heads, a couple in wheelchairs. All potentially losing someone they know and love, on Valentines Day of all days.

I drove on, very somber, thinking of my own past and present. How lucky I am to love the living. How quickly it can all be taken away. I thought about some of our clients with paranormal problems. I realized how bad I detach sometimes from the fragility of life.

I picked up a gift for my wife and drove to her work to drop it off. At her work , a friend of hers helped her trim the stems of the roses and placed them in a vase as my wife unwrapped her gifts. I had decided not to tell my wife of my pondering s, and how the messages I'm getting today are not all happy and joyful, but somber and reflective. The second I made this mental decision, my wifes friends handed her the trimmed rose in the vase and said, "there you go mija, I need to leave and go to the cemetery. Happy Valentines Day." and she turned and walked off.

ouch!

She has lost someone she needs to remember while so many try to forget. We, as paranormal investigators, go searching for these lost ones, trying to capture their voices on voice recorders, trying to capture their spirit lights on film. Trying to videotape proof of an interaction with them, whether by EMF, or provoking them to move something that we can record and play for others.

I had to question and assess my intent today, as far as how much I've been respecting the spirit world. It's Valentines Day. And at this point I don't want to go to any cemetery, trying to get an evp of someone saying, "happy valentines day". Two year ago, that would have been different.

Happy Valentines Day! Call someone you know who lost someone and wish them a Happy Valentine Day. Talk with them and help raise their spirits. Whether they are family, friends, clients or fellow workers, contact someone who needs to hear from the living today, instead of mourning what has passed. Millions of us woke up today with one thought, buying the one we love something special. This is the first year I've seen it a bit differently. And I'm glad I did. I'm grateful that the spirit world steps in from time to time and keeps me humble. Today is another one of those days.

Happy Valentines Day,
Dan and Sandi
Southern California Paranormal Research Society
SOCALPRS.com